The Ones Who Trigger Transformation

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Sometimes life gives you a full-circle moment, one that connects something you once heard, something you once lived, and something you were always meant to know.

Not long ago, I was watching a video that brought me right back to a conversation my daughter and I had years ago. At the time, I didn’t realize how prophetic her words were. She said:

“We come into people’s lives to heal them in some way. We mirror them so they can see themselves and shift.”

At the time, I wasn’t fully walking in who I am now. I was still learning, still growing, still discovering my purpose. But as I listened to that video, hearing someone else say the very thing my daughter once told me, I realized it finally clicked.

I understood.
I am the catalyst.

And no, that’s not about ego. It’s not about thinking I’m better than anyone else. It’s about knowing my purpose and the divine energy I’m meant to carry into this world.

It’s no coincidence that my passions are life coaching and writing; both are tools that help others see themselves more clearly. But helping people see themselves is not always easy. Many times, they aren’t ready to face the truth reflected back at them. My presence alone can make the masks slip, and when that happens, I often become the enemy.

But I’ve learned to see it differently now.
The resistance, the rejection, the chaos, they were never punishments; they were tower moments. Everything falling apart wasn’t my downfall; it was my transformation.

When people mishandle me, it’s rarely about who I am. It’s about what my presence awakens in them. I’ve been misunderstood, underestimated, and misused, but when I give grace, it’s because I know what’s really happening. I’ve seen the shift that The Most High is trying to initiate in their lives.

Yet, when they reject the call to grow and I withdraw, they are left to face the consequences of their own resistance. That’s not cruelty, that’s divine order.

The truth is, I’ve learned the hard way that I cannot save everyone. Even when God gives me insight or dreams of warning, if I stay beyond my assignment, I’ll end up standing in their storm too. Some people are meant to learn through grace, others through chaos. And if I stay too long, I’ll be caught in the destruction that was meant to wake them up.

So I’ve learned to walk away not in anger, but in obedience.

When I look back now, the towers I’ve seen, the relationships that crumbled, the lessons that broke me open, I realize it all makes sense. I was never meant to fit in. I was meant to shake things up. I was meant to reveal what others hide, to push them toward healing, even if they resist it.

God sends catalysts, people like me and you, as divine detours. We show up to redirect others from destruction toward alignment. But the choice to shift is theirs.

So if you’re reading this and life feels heavy or chaotic, maybe it’s not falling apart; perhaps it’s revealing what needs to change.

Because tower moments aren’t the end, they’re the breaking required for rebirth.


 Reflection Prompts

  1. Have you ever realized you were sent into someone’s life to awaken something within them?

  2. What “tower moments” in your life forced you to rebuild into your higher self?

  3. Are you holding onto someone whose season with you has already ended?

  4. How does it feel to accept your role as a catalyst rather than a savior?

  5. When has your presence made others uncomfortable, and what truth might that discomfort be revealing?

  6. What does “walking away in obedience” look like for you right now?

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