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How Uncertainty Puts You In Bondage

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  It is imperative to be sure about who you are and your purpose in life. A clear vision will keep you focused on your destination leaving little room for exits that take you off course. Growing up in a household with dreams more significant than what you are experiencing can be challenging; when you share them having your light dimmed causes doubt to creep in, and before you know it, uncertainty has shaped your life. You no longer feel you are capable of anything but what you saw: households without husbands, men who are upheld by their mothers in their error, daughters who don’t know their fathers, and another generation of dysfunctional patterns. At some, you will feel this urge to go higher, yet the chains remain. What do you do when someone else can recognize your ability but your heart stills hear “you will not amount to anything”? Imagine desiring so much more while the grip of becoming a product of your environment has you in chains? You want to believe, but your mind operates

Discomfort Is Necessary For Your Success

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  Photo by Bailey Littlejohn on Unsplash Most people don’t know much about the process of actually committing to their life dreams and goals because most people don’t keep most of their agreements. Most people add a silent, unconscious modifying phrase to all their commitments: “...as long as it’s not uncomfortable.” What they are saying is I want to stay in my comfort zone. I want to achieve my goals, but I do not want to change anything I am currently doing to get what I want. There has to be another way. I will pray that it happens. Anything we desire requires movement. When we are afraid to move, momentum is lost, and we get stuck. Your mindset has nothing to do with an external entity but everything to do with the polarity you operate.   Discomfort is one of the values of commitment, one of the reasons for committing in the first place. Within us is an automatic goal-fulfillment mechanism. When we commit to something, we are telling the goal-fulfillment mechanism, “I want thi

How To Stop Going In Circles

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Photo by Monika Pejkovska on Unsplash Does anyone remember that song by The Friends of Distinction? Here are the lyrics if not:   "I'm an ever rollin' wheel, without a destination real I'm an ever spinning top, whirling around till I drop Oh, but what am I to do, my mind is in a whirlpool Give me a little hope, one small thing to cling to You got me going in circles (oh round and round I go) You got me going in circles (Oh round and round I go, I'm spun out over you) I'm a faceless clock, with timeless hopes that never stop Lord but I feel that way, of my soul, my soul is stay Oh but what am I to do, my mind is in a whirlpool Give me a little hope, one small thing to cling to You got me going in circles (oh round and round I go) You got me going in circles (Oh round and round I go)"   I did not realize how depressing that song was until now. I heard it a lot growing up, and it was one my grandmother played often. It has been well over ten y