Discomfort Is Necessary For Your Success
Most people don’t know much about
the process of actually committing to their life dreams and goals because most
people don’t keep most of their agreements. Most people add a silent,
unconscious modifying phrase to all their commitments: “...as long as it’s not
uncomfortable.” What they are saying is I want to stay in my comfort zone. I
want to achieve my goals, but I do not want to change anything I am currently
doing to get what I want. There has to be another way. I will pray that it
happens. Anything we desire requires movement. When we are afraid to move,
momentum is lost, and we get stuck. Your mindset has nothing to do with an
external entity but everything to do with the polarity you operate.
Discomfort is one of the values
of commitment, one of the reasons for committing in the first place. Within us
is an automatic goal-fulfillment mechanism. When we commit to something, we are
telling the goal-fulfillment mechanism, “I want this.” The goal-fulfillment
mechanism says, “Fine, I’ll arrange for that.” And it does. Among the things it
uses - individually or collectively are:
- It looks to see what the
lessons are we must learn to have our goal then it arranges for those lessons.
Sometimes, these lessons come in pleasant ways (we notice an article on what we
need to know in a magazine; a conversation with a friend reveals something to
us; a song on the radio has a line that tells us something important or a post
on social media activates something within). At other times, the lessons are
unpleasant (someone we must listen to - a boss, for example - tells us “in no
uncertain terms” what we need to know; or we get sick, and the doctor tells us
what we need to do “or else”). Embrace change, no matter the packaging. It is
good to face what we need to make room for what we want.
- The goal-fulfillment mechanism
sees what is in the way of us having what we want and removes it. Again,
sometimes this can be pleasant (if the goal is a new car, someone offers us an
excellent price for our old car) or unpleasant (our car is stolen, totaled, or
breaks down altogether). I desired another vehicle at the beginning of 2020. I
wrote in my vision journal what I wanted. Months later, I was sitting at a red
light when someone hit me, totaling my car. It was an unknown process, so the
stress of not getting clear answers was the worse part. However, I could get
what I desired, but I could see a chiropractor make adjustments that I did not
realize I needed. It was a win-win.
If you want something new, you
must expand your comfort zone to include that new thing. The bigger the new
thing, the greater the comfort zone must extend. And comfort zones are most
often expanded through discomfort. Picture a pregnant woman; as the baby grows,
she will stretch to make room for the gift. This process is uncomfortable but
necessary to birth the promise. Please repeat after me; to expand, I must grow.
If I am not willing to grow, there can be no expansion. Prayerfully, you will
remember this the next time you pray for an hour for blessings but are not ready
to grow. Learning something new is growth; thinking in a new way is growth;
just doing something different is growth.
When people don’t understand that
being uncomfortable is part of the process, they use the discomfort as an
excuse to give up. Then they don’t get what they want and blame the devil. Yes,
it sure was the devil. That stagnant, stubborn, likes me comfort zone mindset
of YOURS. Time to accept your role and be accountable. We must learn to
tolerate the discomfort to grow.
This process of growth is known
as “grist for the mill.” When making flour in an old stone mill, it is
necessary to add gravel to the wheat before grinding it. This gravel is known
as grist. The small stones that make up the grist rub against the grain as the
mill wheel passes over them. The friction causes the wheat to ground into a
fine powder. If it weren’t for the grist, the wheat would only be crushed. To
grind wheat sufficient enough for flour requires grist. After the grinding, the
grist is sifted out, and only the flour remains. I used this as an example of
how uncomfortable the growth process can be but how necessary it is to get the
desired outcome. If we weren’t so stuck in our ways, discomfort wouldn’t be so
painful. It is all a mind thing.
I have done what most would
consider discomfort by changing the way I eat to grow mentally, spiritually,
and emotionally. The above example is an excellent eye-opener as to why we
should not be eating wheat. First of all, wheat destroys our bones. You see it
advertised as healthy food, but it is not. Television is why many are asleep.
Gravel- an irregular piece of rock is added to wheat. Campines make driveways using
gravel. Can you imagine what it is doing to your body? Studying and researching
is a form of discomfort for those who would preferably someone else tell them
everything. Even if you want to have success in your eating habits, it will be uncomfortable
for you. However, if you want it bad enough, nothing will come between you and
your goal.
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