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Discomfort Is Necessary For Your Success


Most people don’t know much about the process of actually committing to their life dreams and goals because most people don’t keep most of their agreements. Most people add a silent, unconscious modifying phrase to all their commitments: “ long as it’s not uncomfortable.” What they are saying is I want to stay in my comfort zone. I want to achieve my goals, but I do not want to change anything I am currently doing to get what I want. There has to be another way. I will pray that it happens. Anything we desire requires movement. When we are afraid to move, momentum is lost, and we get stuck. Your mindset has nothing to do with an external entity but everything to do with the polarity you operate.


Discomfort is one of the values of commitment, one of the reasons for committing in the first place. Within us is an automatic goal-fulfillment mechanism. When we commit to something, we are telling the goal-fulfillment mechanism, “I want this.” The goal-fulfillment mechanism says, “Fine, I’ll arrange for that.” And it does. Among the things it uses - individually or collectively are:


- It looks to see what the lessons are we must learn to have our goal then it arranges for those lessons. Sometimes, these lessons come in pleasant ways (we notice an article on what we need to know in a magazine; a conversation with a friend reveals something to us; a song on the radio has a line that tells us something important or a post on social media activates something within). At other times, the lessons are unpleasant (someone we must listen to - a boss, for example - tells us “in no uncertain terms” what we need to know; or we get sick, and the doctor tells us what we need to do “or else”). Embrace change, no matter the packaging. It is good to face what we need to make room for what we want.


- The goal-fulfillment mechanism sees what is in the way of us having what we want and removes it. Again, sometimes this can be pleasant (if the goal is a new car, someone offers us an excellent price for our old car) or unpleasant (our car is stolen, totaled, or breaks down altogether). I desired another vehicle at the beginning of 2020. I wrote in my vision journal what I wanted. Months later, I was sitting at a red light when someone hit me, totaling my car. It was an unknown process, so the stress of not getting clear answers was the worse part. However, I could get what I desired, but I could see a chiropractor make adjustments that I did not realize I needed. It was a win-win.


If you want something new, you must expand your comfort zone to include that new thing. The bigger the new thing, the greater the comfort zone must extend. And comfort zones are most often expanded through discomfort. Picture a pregnant woman; as the baby grows, she will stretch to make room for the gift. This process is uncomfortable but necessary to birth the promise. Please repeat after me; to expand, I must grow. If I am not willing to grow, there can be no expansion. Prayerfully, you will remember this the next time you pray for an hour for blessings but are not ready to grow. Learning something new is growth; thinking in a new way is growth; just doing something different is growth.


When people don’t understand that being uncomfortable is part of the process, they use the discomfort as an excuse to give up. Then they don’t get what they want and blame the devil. Yes, it sure was the devil. That stagnant, stubborn, likes me comfort zone mindset of YOURS. Time to accept your role and be accountable. We must learn to tolerate the discomfort to grow.


This process of growth is known as “grist for the mill.” When making flour in an old stone mill, it is necessary to add gravel to the wheat before grinding it. This gravel is known as grist. The small stones that make up the grist rub against the grain as the mill wheel passes over them. The friction causes the wheat to ground into a fine powder. If it weren’t for the grist, the wheat would only be crushed. To grind wheat sufficient enough for flour requires grist. After the grinding, the grist is sifted out, and only the flour remains. I used this as an example of how uncomfortable the growth process can be but how necessary it is to get the desired outcome. If we weren’t so stuck in our ways, discomfort wouldn’t be so painful. It is all a mind thing.


I have done what most would consider discomfort by changing the way I eat to grow mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. The above example is an excellent eye-opener as to why we should not be eating wheat. First of all, wheat destroys our bones. You see it advertised as healthy food, but it is not. Television is why many are asleep. Gravel- an irregular piece of rock is added to wheat. Campines make driveways using gravel. Can you imagine what it is doing to your body? Studying and researching is a form of discomfort for those who would preferably someone else tell them everything. Even if you want to have success in your eating habits, it will be uncomfortable for you. However, if you want it bad enough, nothing will come between you and your goal.

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