4 Ways to Create Lasting Change
When I think of lasting change, I think about the thing I desire to change, having an effect for a long time. I have made changes in areas of my life, but the change did not last. While I was ready to do better, I fell off at some point. Once I began to go within, I learned why I could make some changes and why it was easy for me to fall back into old patterns. The change had not taken root. Because there wasn’t a good foundation to build, I returned to how I did things before. In most cases, I would be triggered and respond the way I did before, which brings me to my first point. Healing is necessary to create change that continues to exist.
Yes, I am talking about healing. You should know me by now, and I'll talk about it until we get it. Once we heal the triggers, the old ways of responding can no longer hinder us. Recovery involves learning what is interfering with you and creating a plan to overcome it. Yes, make a list of your limiting beliefs and invest in a coach to help you see it through.
I will discuss this in my upcoming book, The Coaches Connect Volume II, and workbook, From Pit to Purpose but Create New Habits. I talked about how I responded the same. Part of this process is to document how you respond and develop new ways of reacting.
That saying, “Keep it 100,” is another part of the process. Stop saying one thing and believing another. We confess the desire, but our heart is far from it; when we do not get what we desire, we are mad at everyone except our misalignment.
Remember to choose yourself! Heal yourself, create new habits, stay true to yourself, and do what is in your best interest. Learn the art of detachment. Stop sacrificing yourself because it makes others comfortable, and put yourself first. I used to be a people pleaser too. I speak from years of putting others' feelings before mine, only to have it backfire every time. When we start bad habits like self-sabotage, those who reap the benefits will not be pleasant should we decide to take a moment for ourselves.
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