4 Ways to Create Lasting Change

-

 







When I think of lasting change, I think about the thing I desire to change, having an effect for a long time. I have made changes in areas of my life, but the change did not last. While I was ready to do better, I fell off at some point. Once I began to go within, I learned why I could make some changes and why it was easy for me to fall back into old patterns. The change had not taken root. Because there wasn’t a good foundation to build, I returned to how I did things before. In most cases, I would be triggered and respond the way I did before, which brings me to my first point. Healing is necessary to create change that continues to exist. 

Yes, I am talking about healing. You should know me by now, and  I'll talk about it until we get it. Once we heal the triggers, the old ways of responding can no longer hinder us. Recovery involves learning what is interfering with you and creating a plan to overcome it. Yes, make a list of your limiting beliefs and invest in a coach to help you see it through. 


I will discuss this in my upcoming book, The Coaches Connect Volume II, and workbook, From Pit to Purpose but Create New Habits. I talked about how I responded the same. Part of this process is to document how you respond and develop new ways of reacting. 


That saying, “Keep it 100,” is another part of the process. Stop saying one thing and believing another. We confess the desire, but our heart is far from it; when we do not get what we desire, we are mad at everyone except our misalignment. 


Remember to choose yourself! Heal yourself, create new habits, stay true to yourself, and do what is in your best interest. Learn the art of detachment. Stop sacrificing yourself because it makes others comfortable, and put yourself first. I used to be a people pleaser too. I speak from years of putting others' feelings before mine, only to have it backfire every time. When we start bad habits like self-sabotage, those who reap the benefits will not be pleasant should we decide to take a moment for ourselves. 




Thanks for reading. I hope the information shared helps you discover what's limiting you and the steps to take to overcome it. 


Visit my website for more information on products and services S.O.L.O. Coaching & Consulting.


Follow me on Amazon to be alerted on new books and journals by Author LaToya Nicole.


Please tune in to my podcast where I dismantle limiting beliefs every Tuesday, Tea & Talk with Toya


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Psychologically Unsafe Living Environments

-
Image
  "My living environment began to get highly toxic and uncomfortable to the point where I cried a lot, was angry with myself, and was in a state of depression." -Brittany D. Jackson   I felt this! I could relate to the author as she detailed how hard it was for her to live in one toxic environment after the other. These environments take a toll on us mentally and emotionally, making it difficult to trust others. Suppose you have ever felt extreme anxiety, low self-esteem, worthlessness, or feeling drained being around certain people more than likely. In that case, you are living in or have lived in an unsafe environment. Most of us have, at some point, experienced these living conditions at an early age in our childhood homes.   I grew up in psychologically unsafe living conditions. There was access to designer things and everything else to look good on the outside, but the internal structure was in shambles. I could not wait to get out on my own; there was no reason for me t
Read more

The Pits I Dug

-
Image
  I contributed to a book about the pits I landed in due to how I responded to life’s challenges. How I responded became a detrimental habit I fought to break free from. I was destroying my life from the inside out. Life was grand when things were good, but emotional turmoil was my portion when the toxic pattern kicked in.   While journaling yesterday, I thought about my pit experiences. Yes, experience (s). There were many, some I dug for myself. One author in the same book referenced above talked about how she stayed too long in terrible relationships. As I journaled, I cried, thinking about how my decision to remain in spaces longer than needed caused great mental and emotional calamity. Yes, I experienced abuse mentally and emotionally. I experienced betrayal trauma, but the red flags were clear before getting too deep. I had dreams; I heard song lyrics and even had a few messages warning me, but I overrode my intuition. My gut screamed to run the other way, but I stayed.  
Read more

Taking Your Power Back

-
Image
  ARE YOU READY TO TAKE YOUR POWER BACK? I need you to have that enough is enough anger when you say this because I am serious. Before we get too deep, if you want to know what people mean when they make this statement, I will explain it in one sentence. Having an understanding makes this declaration even more powerful. So here goes when you regain your power, you face your wounds and deal with them .   ●   It means you are not allowing the pain to darken you but taking steps to heal and become a better version of yourself. No one will have the power to gaslight you because you have established boundaries and built confidence. You have taken your control back. ●   It means you have identified your triggers and are working on unpacking them. You have stopped complaining about what happened and have rewritten the narrative. ●   To take your power back means not allowing anyone else to silence you.   If we do not do the inner work, the pain still holds power to dictate every move we
Read more