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You Touched a Wound


You Touched a Wound!


I looked up the etymology of offense, and it read, “wounding the feelings of, or displeasing, another.”


Have you ever wounded the feelings of another person? Did you know you could hurt feelings and not know it initially? They won’t tell you they will start moving differently.


Or maybe you are someone that is offended by everything. If so, you are in a lot of pain that you should process. The offense will come, but it does not have to feel like someone penetrating an already sore wound.


I used to get offended a lot. Offenses caused me to walk away from people prematurely, give up on my goals, and fall into depressive states. It was terrible, but when something offended me, it triggered a wound. When those wounds opened, I responded the same way I did when I first experienced the circumstance that caused the injury.


My life was a sinking ship. My self-esteem was low; I did not believe in anything I did. I would emotionally spiral out of control; all it took was someone to display a characteristic like my abusers, and made me feel left out or unwanted.


Sometimes, I was accurate in how people were treating me, while others, I got wrong. Thanks to this book called The Bait of Satan, I could identify what was happening. My research game turned up a notch, and I could dig so deep I wept, realizing how bad off I was.


There is hope! I have come a long way. I learned people could not avoid touching my every wound and that healing was up to me. Don’t get me wrong, some people who knew my pain points did things intentionally. They crossed boundaries and thought nothing of it. It was disrespectful, and I never opened up to them again. Situations like this are why people have difficulty trusting others with their vulnerability.  


So, if your feelings are wounded easily by things people say, do, or post, take the time to write what was said, done, or posted. Next to those things, note how it made you feel and where the feeling originated. Most of what we experience has roots in something that happened some time ago. The goal is to become aware so that we can heal. People do things unknowingly; we cannot walk around mad at the world. It is in our best interest to take care of the spots repeatedly touched so we can live freely.



Thanks for reading. I hope the information shared helps you discover what’s limiting you and the steps to take to overcome it.


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